Why do they do that?

I was trying to think of the one thing that helped me understand our sons Aspergers....then it hit me.
Choice Theory....

Haven't heard of it? That's cool, if you run a Google search you'll find a huge amount of info on the subject and Bill Glasser's work.

This amazing thing, Choice Theory, helped me understand a very important underlying principle in our sons behaviour.....when you think about it.....all peoples behaviour.

It was the first two of the axioms that hit home

The only person whose behaviour we can control is our own

All we can give another person is information
These two very important pieces of information ran through my head when our son was exhibiting a certain 'Asperger' behaviour....

I can only control my behaviour.....and
What was what he was doing, trying to tell me?

So began a very long journey......whenever he did something, said something that didn't make sense.....

What are you trying to tell me?????

Interesting, when you take out the assumption about a behaviour, and really observe what you see, unconditionally, the depth of understanding you can reach. It's information money can't buy and information you will use as the Aspie (and neuro-typical) child grows.

It's amazing.

The people who have the most difficulty putting their feelings into words, more often than not, are the individuals with Autism Spectrum Disorder and those alike.

Much like the puzzle of a babies cry, sometimes, we can only tell people what we need by what we do.

Behaviours speak louder than words.